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We offer psychological therapy support if you’re experiencing mental health difficulties due to early baby loss or fertility difficulties in the last 2 years. This includes:

  • A miscarriage or a loss of a baby, before 24 weeks pregnant
  • Termination for medical reasons
  • Are pregnant following a loss
  • Fertility difficulties 

We know that grief can be a complex and personal experience. You may feel that you can’t find the right way to process what has happened, and difficulties like depression and anxiety are affecting your day-to-day life, such as work, relationships, and sleep.

We can offer the mental health support you and your partner need through this difficult time.

There are different reasons why pregnancy loss may happen, but it is important to know that it is not your fault. 

  • Chemical pregnancy: This is a very early miscarriage, that is diagnosed when a pregnancy is confirmed by a blood test or a home pregnancy test, but it can’t be seen on an ultrasound scan. This can occur within about 5 weeks of pregnancy.
  • Ectopic pregnancy: When a fertilised egg implants itself outside of the womb, usually in a fallopian tube.
  • Fertility difficulties: When a couple can’t, or are struggling to, get pregnant (conceive) despite having regular unprotected sex over a period of one year (or over).
  • Miscarriage: The loss of a pregnancy during the first 24 weeks.
  • Molar pregnancy: A problem with a fertilised egg, which means a baby and a placenta do not develop the way they should after conception. A molar pregnancy will not be able to survive.
  • Recurrent miscarriage: If you have experienced 3 or more miscarriages in a row. This is rare and affects 1% of couples.
  • Termination for medical reasons (TFMR): You may be offered a TFMR if tests show that your baby is not developing as expected. This may be due to a serious genetic or structural condition. You may also be offered a TFMR if you have pregnancy complications that risk your life or to your baby’s life.

You can find more information on the NHS website, or searching for charities.

Visit NHS website for more information about pregnancy loss (opens new browser tab)


After your GP has referred you to our service, we will arrange an appointment to talk with you about your situation and how we may be able to help.

The support we offer may include:

  • Coping strategies 
  • Group support sessions
  • Information about how the brain and body responds to trauma, loss, and grief
  • Managing emotional and mental health difficulties
  • Managing relationships

We may offer alternative support through other services, but we will talk to you about this. 

Group support

Group support can allow you to share your thoughts and experiences in a safe space, with others who may have gone through similar situations. Sessions like these can help us feel less alone in our struggles. 

There are two types that we may offer, called Pregnancy After Loss Support Group, and the Pregnancy Loss Therapy Support Group.

Your partner is welcome to join you for your sessions.

We also offer short-term partner support, and we may suggest other community-based support services if we feel it would help.

Maternity Voices Partnership (MVP) at Frimley and Wexham Park hospitals have advice on coping as a partner.

Visit the Frimley and Wexham MVP website (opens new browser tab)

Read the Partner Leaflet from Maternity Voices (pdf)

There are books and websites available for partners and families dealing with pregnancy loss.


Tommy’s provide support for people no matter where they may be on their pregnancy journey. They have resources for dads and partners.

Miscarriage Association offer support and information to anyone affected by the loss of a baby in pregnancy, and raise awareness about good practice in medical care.

The Twins Trust Bereavement Service helps parents and carers of twins, triplets or more who have died whether it was during or after pregnancy.

A perinatal and infant Mental Health peer support service for dads and dads to be. 

The Lullaby Trust raises awareness of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), provides expert advice on safer sleep for babies and offers emotional support for .


  • EA Different Kind of Grief: Tips for Men Going Through a Miscarriage, By Erik Fowler​
  • Miscarriage: A Man’s Book, By Rick Wheat​​
  • A Guide for Fathers: When a Baby Dies, By Tim Nelson​
  • Father’s Feel Too, By Andrew Don

Our service is available to women and birthing people who are registered with a GP in the Frimley Integrated Care Board (ICB) area, which includes East Berkshire, Surrey Heath, North East Hampshire, and Farnham.

Unfortunately we do not currently accept self-referrals, or offer home visits.

Please speak to your GP, midwife, Health Visitor or other healthcare professional if you are having difficulties

They will talk to you about available support, and they may refer you to us.

We can offer appointments online or face to face.

If you choose face to face consultations, we have three clinics you can travel to:

  • Camberley
  • Farnham
  • Slough

Our clinics are away from hospital environments, schools, or children centres, where possible

Appointments take place Monday to Wednesday, from 9am to 5pm.

Email MMHSFrimley@berkshire.nhs.uk

We do not provide crisis support.

Please contact the following teams if you need immediate help.


Call 999 if you or someone you know is in danger.

Visit NHS111

Call NHS111

If you feel you are in crisis, you can also contact NHS mental health support teams.

East Berkshire - Crisis Resolution and Home Treatment Team (CRHTT) service Berkshire Healthcare

Visit our CRHTT service page

Call 0800 129 9999 (option 2) 

Surrey, North-East Hampshire & Farnham – Crisis Team

Call 0800 915 4644 


Call 0800 116 123

Visit the Samaritans website (opens new browser tab)

We work alongside our Birth Trauma Pathway service. 

They are a team of Psychologists and Cognitive Behavioural Therapists (CBT) who provide psychological therapy if you are struggling with Perinatal Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) due to experiencing a difficult or traumatic childbirth.

This includes miscarriage, stillbirth, termination of pregnancy, and neonatal death

Visit our Birth Trauma Pathway service page

Our Neurodiversity Passport can help you communicate your needs to our staff. It covers sensory processing, your communication preferences, and topics that might make you feel anxious and overwhelmed, so that we can support you.   

Read about our neurodiversity passport