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When you speak openly about feelings, worries and struggles, you reduce stigma, build trust, and show your child that it’s okay not to be okay. You send a clear message that mental health matters just as much as physical health.

Starting the conversation can feel daunting. You might worry about saying the wrong thing or not having the answers. Sometimes, asking simple questions is the best way to start:

  • What was a good part of your day today?
  • Did anything make you smile or laugh?
  • What helps you feel calm when things feel overwhelming?

If face-to-face conversations feel uncomfortable, try talking side by side, on a walk, in the car, or while doing something together. Often, that feels easier.
It’s Okay If Your Child Doesn’t Open Up Straight Away
Your child might not want to talk - and that’s okay. Respect that and try again another time. What matters most is that your child knows the door is always open.
If your child feels overwhelmed, try to stay calm. You don’t need to fix everything. Start by listening and validating:

  • That sounds really hard.
  • I can understand why you’d feel that way.

If emotions feel very big, help your child regulate first.

Try slow breathing or the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique:

  • 5 things you can see
  • 4 you can feel
  • 3 you can hear
  • 2 you can smell
  • 1 you can taste

This brings focus back to the present moment and can reduce anxiety.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Supporting a child’s mental health can feel overwhelming but help is available.

If you’re worried, you can:

  • Talk to your child’s school or college
  • Contact the YoungMinds Parent Helpline
  • Reach out to services like Samaritans or text SHOUT

Starting the conversation might feel like a small step, but it could mean everything to your child.